Is your idea of getting hot and steamy taking a shower after sex? Join the club. Many women discover their libido is lacking, especially as they get older.
That’s not necessarily a problem, as long as you’re comfortable with the (in)frequency of your romantic dalliances. But it can be frustrating if you miss the intimacy that goes along with sex. And if you and your partner have mismatched libidos, that can be a big source of relationship strife.
Luckily, treatments are available to rev up a sluggish sex drive, says women’s health specialist.
There are all sorts of reasons your sex drive might have shifted into neutral. Pregnancy, breastfeeding, and menopause can do a number on your hormones. Stress, illness, medications, and relationship challenges can also interfere with sexual desire.
If you notice a dramatic dip in your arousal level, first rule out any medical causes. Yes, it might feel weird talking to your doctor about getting frisky, but medical professionals have heard it all. Your women’s sexual health doctor can pinpoint problems such as medication side effects or hormonal changes (like perimenopause) that might be interfering with intimacy.
Yet many women experience reduced sexual desire for no obvious reason — a condition sometimes called hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD). And in the last few years, there has been more research and medical options for this condition. “We now have some excellent options,” women’s sexual health doctor says.
The O-Shot (also called Orgasm Shot) is a simple, nonsurgical, doctor-administered treatment that can augment and rejuvenate the Grafenberg spot (G-Spot), clitoris, and labia.
O-Shot patients experience better sex from increased libido, stronger and more frequent orgasms, greater clitoral arousal, and the ability to have vaginal orgasms.
The O-Shot procedure is one of the most popular procedures in our Sexual Wellness clinic.
Prescription medication is known as flibanserin (Addyi) — originally developed as an antidepressant — has been approved by the FDA as a treatment for low sexual desire in premenopausal women.
A daily pill, Addyi may boost sex drive in women with low sexual desire who find the experience distressing. Potentially serious side effects include low blood pressure, dizziness, and fainting, particularly if the drug is mixed with alcohol.
This hormone suppository can ease vaginal dryness and discomfort in postmenopausal women. Some women with low libido find it increases genital sensitivity (in a good way). It can cause side effects, including acne, hair loss, facial hair growth, and mood changes.
Medications aren’t always the best way to deal with a limp libido. Sometimes, low sex drive is related to psychological issues, such as poor body image, past negative sexual experiences, trust issues or relationship problems. In those cases, it can help to work through your thoughts and feelings with a mental health professional.
And some women just need a crash course in sex education, women’s sexual health doctor says. Learning the ins and outs of your sexual anatomy — including the importance of clitoral and G-spot stimulation — can also improve desire, she adds. After all, if it doesn’t feel good, you won’t crave it.
And remember that you can have a healthy sex drive without being a seductress. “Most women just aren’t thinking about sex that often. They have a more responsive reaction to sex,” women’s sexual health doctor says.
You don’t have to be the initiator to enjoy a roll in the hay. You just have to be open to it, she adds. “It’s like exercise: You may not feel like doing it, but once you start, you’re usually glad you did.”